If you read this blog or have worked with me, you know that reflection is a big part of my client work.

I encourage daily reflection

What went well, or what could we have done differently?

What did I notice about my behaviors, and which opportunities are in front of me?

This reflection inevitably leads to recognizing some situations that didn’t go according to plan . . .  a decision you would like to reconsider, a conversation that went awry, a career path is taken that didn’t prove to be fruitful, a project that completely overwhelmed you, etc. Oftentimes, we would like a do-over, and we imagine what would have happened if we had taken a different path. 

Here’s a great article on how to make reflection a daily habit.

Reflection is imperative for growth

I saw this meme on a social media channel, and it spoke to this scenario:

Reflection on the paths that are open to you

Reflection is imperative for growth.

It allows us to learn and shift. However, we can’t go back. We can’t have a do-over., and we cannot change the past.

There are several decisions I have made in the past that I wonder what would have been different if I had gone a different way. It may have ended up better, or it may have ended up worse.

It may have ended up the same. There is no way for me to know. Those paths have closed.

However, your future is not determined

You have so many paths you can choose. In your reflection, you can choose to have a second conversation with an individual to repair what went wrong the last time or can course-correct the decision you made. There’s no way to erase the tanked project, but you can learn a new approach going forward. You can’t erase the career path you took that didn’t work out, but you can choose a different path now, even if it requires some backtracking.

The new paths are not necessarily easy, but they are open to you. You have a choice, and you can choose the paths you want to take.

The past is closed to change, but the future is open and starts with reflection. 


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